Forgive me, but I am a youth advocate. While I am a very good debater and could tip the scale any way that I want, I tend to prefer siding with the youths many times, because I understand them and what they go through. That's why they talk to me and talk with me and tell me everything that's going on at home, because they know I'll keep it inside and help them the best way I can.
While sitting in my office chair a few hours ago and wondering what the rest of 2014 holds, a thought crossed my mind as I looked at a picture of my mother - Mrs. Yvette Wallace, M.Ed.
I reminisced on her superb training and upbringing, her love, care and attention that she particularly gave not just to her four children, but to the hundreds of children that passed through her hands as she taught Kindergarten for close to fifteen (15) years, before being promoted to a headteacher then Education Officer.
Any trouble that we her children get ourselves into, we could never blame it on mom as she did her best to give us all she could including proper training and discipline and she still tries her best up to this very day.
If I were to meet your child on the street, or ask for an interview on facebook, or via blackberry or whatsapp, what would they honestly say about you daddy or mommy? What would they say?
Would they say that my mom and dad were always there for them?
Would they say that you worked very hard to ensure that they got all they needed to excel in school?
Would they say that you took them to church weekly and not just sent them?
Would they say that you read your Bible, prayed with them and had devotions?
Would they say that you constantly instilled proper morals and values?
Would they say that you spent more time with your boyfriend who isn't their father or girl friend who isn't their mother and payed them no attention?
Would they say that you seemed to love WORK more than HOME and were barely ever there for them?
Would they say that they remembered how disrespectful you were having sex in front of them as a child with a strange man or woman, thinking they didn't understand because they were young?
Would they say that you spent a of TIME and ENERGY loving them?
Would they say you tried to buy their love?
Would they say that you loved to lash them, or slap them or shout at them instead of sit down and talk WITH them - NOT TO them to try to understand the problem and come to an amicable solution?
Would they say that you paid to get them involved in extra classes and extra curricular activities so that they can grow to be well rounded sociable individuals in life?
What would they honestly say about you? Don't ask them! You should be doing your best! If you ask them, they'll probably tell you a LIE, just to not make you feel bad or for you to victimize them.
When you die, would they be honestly telling the truth as they pay tribute to you as you lie in your coffin? Or would they be telling a fantasy story just to make you look good?
As a trained and certified psychologist, we do recognize, that more times than not, what a child becomes as they grow into young men and women and later on, adults, is many times dependent on what they heard and saw as a child while growing up.
We learn and are influenced by OTHERS.
WHO IS INFLUENCING YOUR CHILD? WHO DOES YOUR CHILD SPEND ALOT OF TIME WITH? HOW ARE YOU LIVING? WHAT YOU DO IS JUST WHAT YOUR CHILD WILL PROBABLY DO TOO!
What they also become is also dependent on the LOVE, CARE and ATTENTION they received as a child.
Children DON'T WANT YOU TO BUY THEIR LOVE AND GIVE THEM ALL YOU CAN! What they want is your TIME, your CARE, your attention!
Think and Change moving forward for March 2014! If you are there for your child, much commendations from our Global Dare 2 Be Different International Ministry - www.daretobedifferentskn.com
Brother Khrystus Wallace, President and Founder
Dare 2 Be Different International
www.daretobedifferentskn.com
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